Domestic Violence: The Abuser's Story...
"Abuse in many instances does not start out with huge violations of trust and conduct. It is conveyed through a systematic increase in the abuser's actions over time as they gain more power and control over the victim."
Facts you should know:
Signs of an Abuser:
Being a batterer is a learned behavior and cannot be attributed to any one thing. Trying to make sense of the reason's why an abuser abuses does not excuse the abuser's actions towards another human being.
Signs of an Abuser:
- Extreme jealousy
- Threats of violence
- Uses force during an argument
- Abused former partners
- Isolates you from family and friends
- Alcohol and drug use
- Unpredictable mood swings
- Low self esteem
- Possessiveness
- Controlling attitude
- Explosive anger
- Accusing
- Negative and critical
- Demanding and intolerant of another's perspective that differs from his/her own
Being a batterer is a learned behavior and cannot be attributed to any one thing. Trying to make sense of the reason's why an abuser abuses does not excuse the abuser's actions towards another human being.
What raises your concerns in Dan's way of engaging his Veronica, his wife?