Domestic Violence: The Victim's Story...

Veronica gets home. It is just after Dan gets home. Veronica knows that Dan is going to be upset because she was not there. She is not worried about the children because he has never gone off on them.  But today was different. He was yelling at the top of his lungs when she came in.  When he saw her he immediately accused her of cheating on him. He said that if she didn't come clean and admit her infidelity she would suffer. Veronica began crying. She screamed that she did not cheat on him. Dan struck her. In a blaze of anger he began to turn over furniture and demand that he be given the proper God given respect for being her husband. He stated she didn't deserve to be his wife. Veronica was sobbing. She laid on the floor wishing that she would not have stopped to talk to her friend earlier. She reasoned to herself that this would never have happened if she would have just come straight home.  Several hours later, Dan sees Veronica in the same place that he slapped her down. He comes to her with a pill. He says he's sorry for hitting her and tells her to take it.  It will make her feel better. Veronica without question takes the pill.  Dan has sex with Veronica later that night. Veronica thinks to herself, maybe things will be better from now on. The next day, was bright and sunny. The kids had already made their way off to school. Dan left a note that he had taken the keys to her car. He said he would give her back the keys when she was ready to be honest with him.

Discussion

What are the indicators that Veronica battered woman's syndrome?

(Choose Veronica's next step)

Veronica Decides to Talk to a Counselor

Veronica Decides Call the Police

Battered Woman Syndrome:
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battered woman syndrome (BWS) repeated episodes of physical assault on a woman by the person with whom she lives or with whom she has a relationship, often resulting in serious physical and psychological damage to the woman. Such violence tends to follow a predictable pattern. The violent episodes usually follow verbal argument and accusation and are accompanied by verbal abuse. Almost any subject-housekeeping, money, childrearing-may begin the episode. Over time, the violent episodes escalate in frequency and severity. Most battered women report that they thought that the assaults would stop; unfortunately, studies show that the longer the women stay in the relationship, the more likely they are to be seriously injured. Less and less provocation seems to be enough to trigger an attack once the syndrome has begun. The use of alcohol may increase the severity of the assault. The man is more likely to be abusive as the alcohol wears off. Battering occurs in cycles of violence. In the first phase, the man acts increasingly irritable, edgy, and tense. Verbal abuse, insults, and criticism increase, and shoves or slaps begin. The second phase is the time of the acute, violent activity. As the tension mounts, the woman becomes unable to placate the man, and she may argue or defend herself. The man uses this as the justification for his anger and assaults her, often saying that he is "teaching her a lesson." The third stage is characterized by apology and remorse on the part of the man, with promises of change. The calm continues until tension builds again. Battered woman syndrome occurs at all socioeconomic levels, and one half to three quarters of female assault victims are the victims of an attack by a partner. It is estimated that in the United States between 1 and 2 million women a year are beaten by their husbands. Men who grew up in homes in which the father abused the mother are more likely to beat their wives than are men who lived in nonviolent homes. Personal and cultural attitudes also affect the incidence of battering. Aggressive behavior is a normal part of male socialization in most cultures; physical aggression may be condoned as a means of resolving a conflict. A personality profile obtained by psychological testing reveals the typical battered woman to be reserved, withdrawn, depressed, and anxious, with low self-esteem, a poorly integrated self-image, and a general inability to cope with life's demands. The parents of such women encouraged compliance, were not physically affectionate, and socially restricted their daughters' independence, preventing the widening of social contact that normally occurs in adolescence. Victims of the battered woman syndrome are often afraid to leave the man and the situation; change, loneliness, and the unknown are perceived as more painful than the beatings. Nurses are in an excellent position to offer assistance to battered women in several ways, because encouraging a woman to talk about the battering and the injuries may help her to admit what she may have been too embarrassed to reveal even to her parents. A realistic appraisal of the situation is then possible; the woman wants to hear that the nurse thinks the battering will not recur, but the nurse can tell her only that the usual pattern is for the abuse to continue and to become more severe. The woman may be referred to the social service department or given directions for contacting community agencies such as a battered women's shelter or a hotline to a counseling service. Caring for and counseling a battered woman often require great patience because she is usually ambivalent about her situation and may be confused to the point of believing that she deserves the assaults she has suffered. Written, photographic, and videotaped records are maintained to document the extent of the problem, including the form of abuse reported, the injuries sustained, and a summary of similar incidents and previous admissions.
Mosby's Medical Dictionary, 9th edition. © 2009, Elsevier.

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